Finding a suitable bride is a mammoth task in India that too finding a bride for a full time trader is like searching for a water resource in Mars planet. 
But this issue is similar to what our parents faced 25 or 30 years ago. During their time most bride family would ask the potential groom family, “Is he having a sarkar naukri?” Because they tend to feel that Sarkar Naukri is the most safest job in the world. Girl’s family do not want to marry her to a business person, because they know doing business in India is not an easy task. They don’t want their girl to suffer because of a fluctuating income with too many risk involved. Slowly people started to notice business people are doing much better than salaried folks. The pay off is so huge if a person is persistent enough in his business.
That’s the exact case now for traders. Other than the fluctuating income from trading, the work life balance for a trader is totally different. I personally know many successful full time traders, they are really passionate about trading, they love doing all the analysis, trading 9 to 3 is something they adore. They feel bad when markets are closed on Saturday and Sunday. But when a trader is occupied so much with their profession they completely forget to spend enough time with their family.
If you think from Girl’s family side, you will understand that their worst nightmare is this. A passionate successful trader is fine, but what if he doesn’t having a life outside trading?
What you really need to do is not to convince your parents, instead you need to find a girl who could understand you well. Who is ready to support you and stand by you during all times, because its not your parents or girl’s parents who is going to spend the rest of the life with you, its the girl whom you are going to marry.
So even if you make the Girl’s family agree but if the girl is not really supportive then the whole marriage goes for a toss. Finding that supportive person is super important.
Who knows may be some your close friend, or any family friend who has been watching you over the years would know about you very well, so a girl from this zone could also be a potential match.
Behind every successful trader there will definitely be a supportive spouse. Only when a person has successful personal life, he can lead a successful professional life. In order to instil confidence with your parents and potential bride side family, you can try the following.
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Create a passive income structure that can take care of your family’s monthly expense, so that you are not totally dependent on your trading income.
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Have some investment in real estate, no matter where the Indian economy stands, still people consider you as successful only when you own a house.
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Keep an emergency fund in liquid which should be 6 times of your monthly expense.
If you are able to get these three done, then congratulations You are now shortlisted to become a potential groom who will be considered by the girl’s family.
When I got married I was having a stable job, working IT with very good salary. But when I decided to quit my job to become a full time trader, the first thing my wife asked was “Will you be able to handle the stress full time?” because she closely watched how life of a trader looks like. Still she said, go ahead and give a try. I will be there to support the family if needed. The initial years as a full time trader with a 2 year old child was really hard to manage. Over the years, moved to algo trading which made the entire process easier and trading has become much smoother since then.
That’s why I said, having a supportive spouse is super important for a full time trader.
Trading gives you the ability to do what you want, when you want, with who you want, for as long as you want. No other profession can give you this freedom. Over the years, when people understand this, then Traders will be most sought after candidates by the Gilr’s family.
